I don’t have children of my own, but I am a child of my mom’s. So while I can’t tell you what it’s like to bear a child and love that child probably more than anything in the world, what I do know is that I still need my mom… but maybe not in the way you might be thinking.
Sure, I live on my own now and can take care of myself, so I don’t need her in those ways, but there is another way that I need her and I’m guessing your kids probably still need this from you too.
If you still have your mom around, you may notice that if she’s taken care of herself throughout her life, she may be able to still move around with ease and her mind may also still be sharp.
This is what you hope for your mom because you love her and want her to be healthy and happy, even (or especially) into her later years.
The same is true for your kids. They want you to be healthy and happy because they love you.
But, I’m going to go as far as saying that they need you to put your self-care first because the better you take care of yourself now, the easier it will be for you and them later on.
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If you’re caring for an elderly parent who is not well, you may have experienced the time, energy, and money cost for medications, hospital visits, and general care.
Of course, we’re ALL going to need those things in our later years, but the hope is that it’s minimal. A lot of that depends on how we take care of ourselves NOW.
Your kid’s hope for you is that you pay that price now for the both of you. If you’ve seen your parent suffer, it’s a horrible feeling. Your kids don’t want to see that, just like you don’t want to see that for your own parents.
Look, I don’t mean to be a “Negative Nancy” the week after Mother’s Day, I really don’t, but I’ve made your health and self-care my life’s work, and so I hear about this every day from my clients. It can be very costly in many ways to care for a parent who didn’t put their health and self-care as a priority during their life.
All this to say that my wish for you, and I’m assuming your kid’s wish for you this past Mother’s Day as well (even if they don’t say it) is to do what you need to do to be even healthier and happier by Mother’s Day 2018.
And then perhaps the Mother’s Day card that is never written, but is in the back of the mind of your child someday is:
“Thanks Mom, not only for taking care of me,
but for also taking care of yourself throughout your life.
It makes me so happy to see you healthy and happy.
You’ve inspired me to put my health first
because I want to be just like you someday.
Oh, and thank you for being such a great role model
for your grandchildren. It brings me so much joy
and I know it does for you too, being able to see them
grow up and spend time with them as often as you do.
I love you, Mom!”
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